Making the choice to adopt is one of the biggest decisions my husband and I had faced in our relationship; when we felt like our lives were empty and we wanted more, the choice to adopt was the right one. Little did I know that making that first decision was going to be one of the easier ones we would have to make in regards to making our dream a reality. The UK adoption process requires you to start out by finding the right agency.
As we started our process, we decided on the things that were important to us in an agency. We didn’t have any experience nor did we know anyone who had gone through an adoption within a similar time frame; everyone we did know had gone through the process many years before us and hadn’t been given any choices whatsoever in any adoption. It was in our research to find the right agency that we learned the difference between a good agency and a great one.
Most agencies have good intentions…that was a necessity… It was our ultimate goal to find a truly good organization whose intention was to create forever families. For us it was important to know the total of our financial responsibilities, what would be expected from us at various points of the process, and the different classes and home inspections we’d have to pass, to name a few things.
And after we started talking to different agencies we learned the difference between finding a good agency and a great one. And, if I may, I’d like to share what we discovered with you. I hope this information will save you the same growing pains that we faced when we were just starting.
Good Agency V. Great Agency
– A good agency will help you understand their process, but a great agency will provide you detailed information in written form to help you know what’s coming next at every turn.
– A good agency will pair you up with a counselor, but a great one will pair you up with a counselor that best fits your personalities and truly understands your goals.
-A good agency will act as a liaison between the birth parents and the adoptive parents, but a great one will be with you by your side throughout the entire process.
-A good agency will advise you of your options and make suggestions, but a great one will support you regardless of what decision you make without guilting you into making a different decision.
-A good agency will walk you through the different phases from beginning to end, but a great one will walk with you.
There are a lot of choices to make when you first decide to bring a child into your family. For every person that list of choices isn’t going to be the same. It’s important to consider your top priorities, stick to them, and never allow yourself to be pressured into making a decision. A great agency will provide you a list of former families who have used their services. This can be an incredibly valuable tool, use it wisely.
Do your homework, talk to people about their experiences, and trust your gut. It’s the beginning of one of the most incredible things to ever happen to your life. You’ll want it to be the best it can be. Finding your true fit will make all the difference in your story. Click here if you’re interested in learning more about the UK adoption process.